Category Archives: Life Lessons

Freedom From Banging Our Heads Against The Wall

I have felt a weight on my chest lately.

It feels like an elephant is standing on it to check out the view. It feels as though one of those giant cement balls from Looney

Tunes cartoons is resting on me. It feels like I have the weight of the world on there.

And I suppose I do. What’s the world bring us? Bills, bills, and bills, and elephant-sized challenges. What’s the Lord bring us?

FREEDOM from our challenges, peace, joy.

It sometimes feels like I can’t breathe. The weight of being a new husband and father (to my dog Pongo) can be a lot heavier than

expected. The demands of the 40-hour work week, both on the job and the limited time off, is straining. And to think I worked so

hard, unknowingly looking for stress like this! (Be careful what you wish for, it might just come true!)

As children of God, we are to be free of this.

  • And he saith unto them, Why are ye so fearful? How is it that ye have no faith? – Mark 4:40
  • Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. – Luke 12:32
  • For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee. – Isaiah 41:13

God, our greatest friend and helper, is here for us. Like a true Father, He wants to take our hand, walking us through our

troubles. He wants us to lay our troubles at His feet so He can take care of them. This isn’t just a neighbor down the street who is

offering to take a look at your broke down weed whacker when he gets the time, this is the Lord, demanding us to give Him

WHATEVER problem we face.

That’s not only if we feel like it or if we don’t feel quite prepared ourselves, that’s in every single instance. The only problem is

that we don’t want to. Even the tallest hurdles, something stubborn inside us, or something prideful, cries out “I want to try at

that!!” We may be yelling out “AHHHHH!!! I can’t do this!!” But we still continue trying it alone, and continue beating our heads

against the wall with each failure.

We need freedom from clinging to dying efforts. Look at your life, you know there is something in it that just isn’t working, no

matter how hard you try. Let God take control, and He’ll work the miracles you have been wanting to see all along.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. – Psalm 46:1


How to Spend Your Time Wisely: Give it Away

Let’s see … today I spent 10 hours between work, lunch and commuting, 15 minutes exercising, 10 minutes on Facebook, three minutes on Yahoo news stories, 10 minutes cumulative taking my dog outside and standing nearby, eight minutes showering (I’m a guy!), 12 minutes going to the bathroom, 45 seconds staring at the computer screen before I wrote this, 20 minutes preparing food, 10 minutes eating, 15 minutes dressing, 45 minutes looking at shoes my wife is trying on & telling her I like them & watching her decide she doesn’t like them, 30 minutes repairing the blender our dog carried around like a trophy, one minute undressing, and not much, much more.

That’s life? That’s what we’re living for? Odd jobs and other things crammed into a gratuitous work week and into the cracks and crevices of manic busy-ness? I have problems with this. I often throw fits, just ask my wife. I mean, I do have issues with picking a plan for my time and sticking to it, carving out time for friendships, writing, playing music, and even plaing organizing and simplifying my life, but that’s normally when I forget what this life is about.

This life isn’t our own.

Matthew 10:39 – “Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”

I struggle with it, but this life isn’t. I was having the hardest time of late, because I just couldn’t spend my time the way I wanted, not the way Jesus wanted. When Jesus says “Go!”, I just need to go. FINALLY, that’s becoming a realization.

As a husband, it’s easy to fall into a cycle. The husband needs to provide for his family, so he must get a full-time job with benefits! The husband needs to please his wife, so he must do chores and give her favors! The husband must be a respectable head of the household, so he must become highly involved in community, church,and social events!

Therefore, the husband must be worn out and bitter, huh?

When we give our time not to our families, but to Jesus, He’ll give that time to the families, and, even more importantly, He’ll put joy in our hearts. How many times have you seen a hard working father who is at the end of his rope and stressed into oblivion? He may work harder than anyone you know, but he’s a fuse just waiting to go off, often not the most beloved father, even after all of his work.

Whenever that phone rings, if Jesus says answer it and give up your time, give it up, He’ll reward you with exactly what you are looking for – peace. Do it, and enjoy the reward.